You have surely been planning for the wedding day for months. But there will be some things, which just don’t go according to the plan, no matter how well you plan it. The food could get served late, the florist may end up bringing flowers in the wrong color, and someone in the bridal party could get drunk and say something that embarrasses you. So much can go wrong, and it can make you very stressful.
Stress is common on a big day, like your wedding. In fact, wedding day nerves is a common issue that affects both the bride and groom and also their friends and family. And to be frank, its not just about the wedding day. Family drama, social pressures and everything else can add up quickly to make everything very complicated. So soon, there can be this sense of apprehension on what kind of wedding ceremony it is going to be. There can be nervousness and stress for months, ever since you started planning and making the arrangements for the wedding, with everything coming to a boil on the big day.
But there are a few things you can do to keep it under control. Here are my suggestions –
Finalize the Wedding Itinerary
Finalize in advance, and while doing so, be realistic, and keep room for errors. Ask the on-site coordinator and photographer to help out if you don’t have a planner. They have the experience to raise any red flags. Confirm all the vendors at the beginning of the week. The family members and bridal party should receive copies of the timeline during the rehearsal dinner so that everyone knows who must be where and when.
Is Your Wedding Gown Fitting Properly?
I have seen brides putting on their dress and discovering that the alterations aren’t carried out perfectly, and the pins still there. Also, when the wedding gown is delivered, always take it out from the garment bag so that the dress can settle and breathe.
The weather is often unpredictable, even at the most driest places. So it’s always good to have a rain-plan if you are planning a completely outdoor event. There has to be a backup plan for the ceremony and reception. Also, make sure that you double-check with the photographer to check whether the person has a plan in case it rains, especially with the portraits. It may be a good idea to arrange for a few cute umbrellas just in case. You will stay covered with an adequate rain plan. So you don’t have to fear the weather any more. You will have an amazing wedding, shine or rain.
Prepare the Wedding Shoes
Aching feet can ruin your day. Wear thick socks before, and use a hair dryer on the tight spots. You may also place a bag of water on both the heels and freeze them overnight. A friend gave me these tips, and I have found them to be most useful. It’s also a good idea to have a replacement shoe ready for outdoor shooting after the first dance. The gorgeous heels can be a torture once you have been standing for a few hours anyway. Don’t wait till you are limping. This applies for men as well. You don’t have to worry about your looks. Your comfort and happiness should be priority at this point.
Almost always, the entire attention is fixed on the wedding, and many forget that life is just going to continue once the wedding is done. It’s always good to have an overnight bag where you can keep all the essential stuff in case you will be staying at a resort or hotel after the wedding. On the other hand, if the two of you are going to honeymoon immediately, then you should pack the vacation suitcase ahead of time, so you don’t have to worry about it at the last moment, when the wedding is just around the corner. Also, make sure that all the transportation to the airport and hotel is arranged before, so that you don’t have to stand in the wedding gown, waiting for the Uber to arrive.
You Should Have a Coordinator
Many people make the mistake of believing they can do all the planning themselves. But everything can go out of control on the day of the wedding. You should attend the guests and not the staff on the wedding day. A coordinator can do all that, providing you so much relief. You will be able to enjoy much more.
Don’t Worry About the Small Issues
There is no perfect wedding. There will be spilled drinks, groomsmen will arrive late, and your dress won’t be clean. These things won’t matter at the end of the day. Focus on the most important – you are marrying the most important person in your life.
There is no photographer, unless that professional is someone from the family itself, who can know all your friends and extended family members by sight. So rounding up all the family for a portrait is always a problem at weddings. Give someone the responsibility of being the “photo wrangler”, and you can solve this easily. Think hard. Who in the family knows everyone and is very good at organizing people? With a photo wrangler in place, you will find that arranging for the family portrait will be very smooth. You can finally relax and focus on looking great in the photos. You don’t have to do the organizing anymore.
Delegate as much as you can. You cannot do everything, no matter how efficient you are. Ask your family and good friends to help you out. Give each person a specific job.